12 Things Americans Consider Normal When Going to a Wedding That Brits Would Find Completely Over the Top
When it comes to weddings, Americans have some traditions that might seem a bit over the top for Brits. From the way guests RSVP to the proper send-off with sparklers, the differences are both interesting and fun to explore. Let’s walk through 12 common American wedding practices that Brits might find extravagant, and see just how different two cultures can be while celebrating love!
1. RSVP through a wedding website

These days, many American weddings simplify the RSVP process through a dedicated website. This might seem a bit impersonal to some, but it really helps keep things organized. Guests can confirm their attendance, choose their meals, and even leave personal messages for the couple. It’s a one-stop-shop for all things wedding-related, which is super handy when you’re dealing with a lot of guests.
2. Buy gifts from a registry list

In the States, it’s common for the couple to set up a registry list. This is basically a wishlist of items they’d find useful to start their new life together. Guests can select what to buy from the list, making sure they get something the couple really needs or wants. This might seem a bit transactional, but it’s really just about practicality and ensuring gifts are appreciated and useful.
3. Go to a bridal shower

Before the wedding, American women often attend a bridal shower thrown by the bride’s close friends and family. This event is all about showering the bride with gifts, love, and good wishes. Think of it as a way to celebrate the bride before the big day, with games, food, and lots of fun. It’s an extra party just for her and her close circle, which adds to the overall celebration.
4. Fly to Vegas for the bachelor party

A bachelor party in Vegas? It sounds like a movie plot, but it’s a real thing for many Americans. Flying out to Las Vegas for a weekend of fun and games is popular among grooms and their buddies. It might seem excessive, but it’s a way to make some memorable moments before the groom takes on his new marital responsibilities.
5. Attend a rehearsal dinner the night before

The night before the wedding, it’s typical for the immediate family and the wedding party to gather for a rehearsal dinner. This meal follows a run-through of the wedding ceremony. It’s a chance for everyone to get to know each other better and to relax before the big day. It’s much more than just a dinner; it’s part of the bonding experience.
6. See eight bridesmaids in matching dresses

Yes, American weddings often feature a large group of bridesmaids, all dressed in the same style and color of dress. This creates a stunning visual but might seem a bit much for someone not used to this tradition. It’s all about unity and support for the bride on her special day.
7. Get shown to the bride’s or groom’s side

At many American weddings, guests are asked if they are friends or family of the bride or groom to decide where they will be seated. This tradition helps balance the sides and makes the ceremony look nicely organized.
8. Watch the couple make a grand announced entrance

After the ceremony and often at the start of the reception, the newlyweds make their first grand entrance as a married couple, announced by a DJ or a band. This spotlight moment is filled with cheers and claps, setting a lively tone for the evening.
9. Watch a fully choreographed first dance

The first dance at American weddings often involves more than just swaying to a romantic tune. Many couples now opt for a choreographed performance, sometimes even including their bridal party. It’s a spectacle meant to delight guests and provide unforgettable memories.
10. Pay for drinks at a cash bar

While many weddings feature an open bar, it’s not uncommon in the U.S. for guests to pay for their own alcohol at a cash bar. This can be a surprise for those from countries where the tradition is generally to provide drinks for free. It helps manage the budget while still offering guests a wide range of beverage options.
11. Wave sparklers as the couple leave

One fun American wedding tradition is the sparkler send-off, where guests light sparklers to create a twinkling archway for the couple to walk through as they leave the reception. It’s a beautiful, photogenic moment that brings a bright end to a joyous occasion.
12. Head home when the party ends at 10pm

In contrast to some cultures where wedding parties last well into the night, it’s not unusual for American weddings to wrap up by 10pm. This might seem early, but it often reflects the venue’s regulations or just a preference for a more low-key evening. It means the big day is long enough to enjoy, but not so long that it wears everyone out.
We are Mary and Eric, the founders of Be Right Back, a blog dedicated to romance around the globe and at home.
We are Mary and Eric, the founders of Be Right Back, a blog dedicated to romance around the globe and at home. With over 10 years of experience in dating and traveling to romantic places, we share our favorite date ideas and romantic destinations to help couples level up their relationships. Having lived in and traveled through the USA, we also share our favourite things to do in the States.
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